How to Deal with an Alcoholic Spouse: Expert Advice from Bangalore’s Trusted De-Addiction Centre.

Dr. Gambetta daCosta
Jul 30
3 min read

Living with a spouse who is battling alcohol addiction can be emotionally exhausting, mentally draining, and overwhelming for the entire family. In India, especially in urban centres like Bangalore, alcoholism is a growing concern that affects not just the individual but the entire household.

At Higher Power Foundation, a leading alcohol de-addiction centre in Bangalore, we understand the pain, confusion, and helplessness you may feel. This blog will guide you with compassionate and practical advice on how to deal with an alcoholic spouse—whether it’s your husband or wife—and when to seek professional help.

Understanding Alcoholism as a Disease.

Alcohol addiction is not just a bad habit—it is a medically recognised chronic disorder. Blame and guilt will only make things worse. Acceptance is the first step towards helping your partner and protecting your peace.

Key Point: Addiction affects brain function and behaviour. Your spouse is not choosing to hurt you—they are trapped in a cycle that requires medical and psychological intervention.

Signs That Your Spouse May Be Struggling with Alcoholism

Here are some common symptoms to look out for:

Drinking daily or binge drinking on weekends
Mood swings, irritability, or aggression when sober or drunk
Neglecting family, work, or financial responsibilities
Denial about their drinking habits
Physical signs like slurred speech, blackouts, or frequent hangovers

If you are experiencing verbal abuse, physical harm, or constant fear, prioritize your safety first. Reach out for support.

Emotional Impact on the Partner

Being married to someone who is addicted to alcohol often causes:

Chronic stress or anxiety
Shame and social withdrawal
Emotional burnout or depression
Financial instability
Loss of trust and intimacy

It’s okay to feel angry or helpless. These emotions are valid—and you deserve support too.

How to Talk to Your Spouse About Their Drinking

Approaching an alcoholic partner is sensitive. Here are some tips for an effective conversation:

Speak calmly when they are sober—not during or right after drinking
Use "I" statements: “I’m worried about your health and our relationship”
Avoid blaming, yelling, or emotional blackmail
Suggest professional help—not punishment
Keep your expectations realistic. One conversation may not change everything

You can always request a guided family intervention through our team at Higher Power Foundation.

Coping Strategies for Spouses

What You Should Do:

Educate yourself about addiction and recovery
Set clear emotional boundaries
Take care of your mental health (therapy, support groups, journaling)
Involve trusted friends or family for support
Encourage them to visit a rehabilitation centre with you

What You Should NOT Do:

Cover up or lie about their drinking
Sacrifice your own needs entirely
Try to control or constantly monitor them
Rely on willpower alone—professional help is essential

When to Seek Help from a De-Addiction Centre

You should seriously consider getting expert help if:

Your spouse has failed to quit despite repeated promises
Their drinking is affecting your family’s safety, children, or finances
You are experiencing abuse or emotional trauma
You feel isolated and unable to cope

At Higher Power Foundation, Bangalore, we offer:

Alcohol detox programmes
In-patient and out-patient rehab
Couples and family counseling
Relapse prevention support
Aftercare and reintegration

We are centrally located in Bangalore and cater to individuals and families across.

Healing Starts With You

It’s natural to want to save your spouse. But remember—your well-being is equally important. Healing is a journey for both the addict and the family. By seeking help, setting healthy boundaries, and focusing on recovery—not blame—you take the first step towards change.